Frequently asked questions
Maybe you have heard a lot of rumours about swinging. And maybe you have heard the word ‘lifestyle’. Well, put simply, lifestyle is the term used by swingers to describe who they are without using the word swinger. Sometimes whispered, sometimes shocking, but the reality of swinging is not always what you hear. Visitors toswingersparties are normal people like you from all walks of life. A swingers club has a significant advantage: all differences are set aside and everybody is considered “equal”.
Do not expect any “classification” for swingers. Swingers are couples that like to watch or bewatched, without swapping partners. There are others that come to swap partners and even others who like to enjoy themselves in other ways with other swingers. Some couples only find what is comfortable and fun for them after a few visits to a club. Swinging is not simply about sex, although you might soon find out there is quite a lot of it. Swinging for many is the style of life they enjoy – the friendship, intimacy, humour and importantly the fun. These and many more reasons are why guests come back time and time again. And remember that occasionally a swingers party is so much fun that some couples have no sex at all.
And the guests’ age? The answer is many and varied. We do have to say that of course you will not get in if you are below the age of eighteen. Other than that we have no age limits. Each of our parties is different in terms of average age.
That depends only on you. Maybe because you are reading these pages, which we hope you are. But seriously. Talk openly with your partner why you would like to come and what your expectations are:
- You want to enrich your sexual experience and learn something new? – right
- You want to enjoy lovemaking next to other people. - right
- You want to learn about lovemaking with other couple (couples). - right
- I just want to come to the club and I have to have a girl with me, otherwise they will not let me in. - wrong
- I want to go to the club and you will come with me, even if you do
- not want to, because you love me. - wrong
- I want to make love to others, but you can make love only to me! - wrong
Our main advice is: Agree to your boundaries!
Maybe you only want to make love with your partner, or you decide you want some kind of intimacy with others. In any case it is a good idea to have a safe word. Maybe one of you is not happy and thinks it embarrassing to say so in front of strangers. Hence the safe word or gesture.
If one of you does not want to come, it is best not to. Full stop. Forcing your partner to go, negotiating a deal, promising things might very well end in tears.
On the other hand, do not worry that a decision to go will forever change your life or turn it upside down :-).
- Are you or your partner jealous? This emotion does not belong in a swingers party. Trust us that no promise can erase jealousy. Jealousy can ruin not only your evening experience, butat worst can result in us asking you to leave for the sake of the other guests.
- Have you been “talked into it”? Your partner pestered you for so long that you had to agree. Usually you do this under heavy promises of what you will get if you agree. Such behaviour is not correct from your partner and therefore do not budge from your decision.
- You think that swinging will mend your breaking relationship? Unfortunately this is not going to happen. Swingers parties are for couples that are sure in their relationship and want to enrich it with something new.
They will jump on us right after we get inside, tear away our clothes and god knows what else!
As much as you might want this to happen it definitely will not. You do not have to fear that you will be attacked by a horde of sex crazed couples that will stop you from wanting to have a look around.
On the contrary, we will ask you if you are here for the first time and give you a tour of the club if you wish, show you all the rooms and answer your questions. Then you will visit the main room, have a drink and you can watch as other couples come, talk to others and to you also, go dancing or enjoy the pool… soak up the relaxing atmosphere and then you will decide whether and how to participate on the action in the rooms or if you just want others to inspire you for later… Dress is entirely up to you. How much or how little you want to wear is for you to decide.
If it is your fist time with us it is unlikely you will sit forgotten in a corner and others will ignore you. If you wish we can introduce you to other couples that visit us more often. They would love to talk to you and at the end you will learn that swinging is not only about sex, but mostly about fun.
You don’t have to, but you can. Nobody will discriminate against you if you just want to be with your partner. It’s even one of our club rules. Just making love with other couples present is so exciting!
Do you imagine making love being surrounded by gawping and rude men? You are wrong. Single men cannot enter (again it’s one of our club rules), not even if they try to pay us a hefty inducement to do so.
On the other hand there are couples that enjoy watching another couple making love. Not so as to make your situation difficult and upset you, but because they find it really exciting and it turns them on.
You will be quite surprised at first sight (and your friends even more) and you will want to just slip out. On the contrary – do the opposite. Say hello and you will see that despite the initial shock everything is all right. You don’t have to start talking about your sexual fantasies up front, but it is true that you are here for the same purpose and trying to avoid or pretend that you do not see each other would not help you enjoying yourself.
There are condoms in all the rooms for your convenience. Of course it’s up to you to agree with your potential partner, but we really insist that you do – so use them.
A few words about our hygiene… we will not describe here how we clean the club after each party, but we would like to mention a different aspect that you will not encounter in other clubs. And these are the beds, or mattresses to be precise. These mattresses are not similar to those you have in your bed at home, but they are covered with imitation leather that prevents unpleasant surprises, such as dried stains of former guests when you pull away the linen. Unfortunately such a hygienic measure is not standard in the Czech Republic clubs, but in our opinion it is a necessity.
We currently do not have a set dress code to follow to gain entry to our club. On special occasions (for example our anniversary party) on our invitation we will tell you what is suitable for that party. In any case, please consider the fact that your clothes represent you and form a basis for interaction with other guests. Sweatpants, cargo pants, rugged jeans, sweatshirts, crocs slippers - that's just a small list of really inappropriate items of clothing. You are going to a party, and moreover to a club with an erotic atmosphere. Elegance and style are welcome. On the other hand, the "I'll take it off anyway" argument needs to stay at home.
We hope we succeeded in answering all your questions and put to rest those untrue rumours (you know, those of a storyteller just to get their 10 minutes of fame).
Nothing prevents you from your D day. Take a deep breath and let’s start! And when you are sitting in our club, your heart racing and you start wishing you should never have come, remember that everyone had their first party. Even us. And we stayed :-).
About swingers and the lifestyle
When did it all start?
A better question would be when did people started thinking about sex not only with their partner, but together with others. From this viewpoint swinging has been here for centuries – let’s have a look at well-known Rome orgies. Nobody considered it unusual, rather attending orgies was a certain symbol of success and power.
We can read all this in the history books. The tables were turned when religion started. Christianity drew a line in the sand and left all such sexual activitybehind. It started a cult of sacred marriage, faithfulness and a single partner for life. We can find little records on our sex-crazy predecessors, because they succeeded in holding these activities in secret.
No wonder, when a poem could cause a scandal, everybody knew what would happen to those engaged in “activities”. However, a phenomenon that haunts society even today was created – sex is something forbidden, something that has to be done in secret, never to talk about it and mainly – a missionary position is the only one normal and anything else is abnormal – deviant.
Welcome 20th century!
Whatever your viewpoint, mankind succeeded in replicating through sex and our relationship towards sex slightly shifted. We saw an enormous increase in eroticism and pornography here after 1989. And also swinging – there have been personal ads with “More than 1+1” in the magazines.
Yes, it still is a slightly fringe topic, but personal ads looking for “male or female family friend” prove that interest in multiple partners for sex was on the increase. Whilst our German neighbourswere happily swinging in their first swinger club ever (the Maihof club – formerly Rhein-Party – established in 1979), the parties here were still in private houses or flats.
People were trying to open clubs in the Czech Republic in the second half of 90’s. Gradually with some marketing the swinging lifestyle gained people’s interest and the media started to react. First comments from sexologists appeared, more clubs started to open. We will have to wait for the swinger clubs to reach numbers and concentration like they have in Germany, but we can say that we succeeded in “starting and running the home-made automobile for a few miles :-).”
Why swinging?
The term swinger comes from the US. If you search Webster’s, you will find:a) a lively up-to-date person who indulges in what is considered fashionable) one who engages freely in sex. Therefore we can find that swingers are non-conservative and indulge in new things, like to experiment and are not bound by superstitions.
So who are swingers?
We have the same general characteristics. People not afraid to talk about their wishes with others and are able to openly acknowledge their lifestyle. They have nothing to be ashamed of. They realize they do not endanger their partnership by visiting swingers parties and do not consider it to be unfaithfulness.
The word unfaithful is not even heard between them. Sometimes beautiful friendships are born in the clubs. Visiting swingers clubs abroad is more than just “let’s have fun tonight”. It is a perfectly normal and legitimate spending of free time, nobody considers the sentence “We’re going swinging tonight” as unusual.
Clubs have a significant advantage for swingers – people who go there have the same interest, there is no “would you like joint sex” questioning. They don’t have to worry about being heard when having sex (oh those thin walls), they don’t have to worry about anything: everything is ready – drinks and food, fun as various erotic games are played as well as interesting lovemaking surroundings – each club tries to impress with something their guests cannot find at home – large bed, swings, pool or sensual SM lovemaking…